Brides, let me paint you a picture of a stressful wedding morning scenario I see all too often....
It’s your wedding day! You & your friends take turns getting pampered with hair & makeup, laugh about inside jokes, and jam to Lizzo while you sip your mimosas.
Finally, it’s your turn to sit in the makeup chair! While your makeup is being applied, your family members and wedding professionals slowly begin trickling into the room. Professional photos are being taken, your videographer is filming, and your florist just knocked on the door to deliver your bouquet.
As the “happy chatter” volume rises, the music gets turned up, and suddenly, your tranquil getting-ready room feels a little bit (or a lot) more overwhelming than you expected.
Feeling a little nervous excitement? As the room becomes busier, it's normal that many brides do. We can usually sense that, and we aim to be a calming presence that doesn’t add to the noise.
There are a few tricks to prevent your morning from escalating to this level of overwhelm. Here are my top three:
1. Surround yourself with people who will prioritize a peaceful wedding morning for you
Most brides love the thought of getting ready with their best friends (and for good reason--it can be a lot of fun)! But if the thought of nerves mixed with a lot of high energy in the room on an emotionally-charged day already stresses you out, consider this: it's ok to be selective and keep the number in your getting ready room to a minimum.
Many of our brides choose to get ready in spacious hotel suites or opt for 2-3 adjoining rooms, so they have a little tranquil space of their own to get ready, and yet their wedding party isn't too far off.
2. Book experienced hair & makeup professionals
Gathering 6 to 12 (or more) of the most important women in your life, each with an assigned hair & makeup appointment time, can be *just* about as hectic as it sounds. The good news is, after experiencing hundreds of wedding mornings, we also know exactly how to coordinate this portion of your morning to make it flow effortlessly into your day. (If you're an MBM bride, we have this covered!) ;)
Make sure you understand what the "hard stop" time is for hair & makeup to be complete. Important: please don't guess on this one - ask your photographer! Failing to do this is the #1 mistake I see brides make, and it very quickly causes your timeline to run behind. This can be entirely avoided just by communicating with your vendors beforehand.
3. Hire a wedding planner or coordinator
As a wedding professional, it's almost immediately clear on a wedding day when a bride has hired a wedding planner or coordinator. The bride knows that she never has to check the clock, because her schedule is being carefully managed for her. (Doesn't that sound amazing?)
If you haven't hired a coordinator or planner, I highly recommend it if you're aiming for a stress-free wedding day. At the very least, have someone be the "point of contact" for you that day so you don't become the go-to problem solver. Your only job should be to relax and soak up every amazing moment.
With a little preparation during the wedding planning process, your wedding morning can become the peaceful experience you've always dreamt it would be (promise)!
Almost every wedding vendor you'll meet with will have questions about your timeline.
SO many details hinge on your wedding day schedule.
But where do you start?! How do know how much time to plan for each section of your day?
While I'm no wedding planner, after servicing 300+ weddings, I’ve seen plenty of morning wedding schedules that create unnecessary stress, and the ones that build in time for intentional relaxation.
First thing's first: I strongly recommend hiring a wedding coordinator. A great coordinator makes all the difference on your wedding day. They reduce your stress, ease your decision-making, and have the experience to finesse your budget in creative ways. They're worth every penny to ensure you and your family can relax without worrying about keeping your schedule on track.
Here are 3 questions to ask yourself while creating your morning timeline:
1. WILL HAIR & MAKEUP TRAVEL ON-LOCATION?